Your ex is a part of your past. It is however possible for your ex to have a come back to your life if you allow it. Is it possible for someone to end up with an ex? Yes, It is, depending on the reasons why the relationship ended.
Let me begin with the story of Jude.
Jude is a promising young guy, a first class graduate of Mass communications with lofty dreams for the future. One of his goals is to be a successful on air personality (OAP).
Getting the right job however seems difficult as he has to be joggling between one to the other. One of the bright sides of his life is his fiancée, Judith. Her daily phone calls always make his day colorful and he looks forward to it.
Judith has however changed a bit for some days now, she rarely pick his calls and always sound not too excited at the sound of his voice. He thought of paying her a visit to know the reason for the sudden change in her attitude.
This is however impossible because she is miles away observing her National Youth service Corps (NYSC).
Jude got a call from one of the best radio station in town to come for an interview. As he is putting everything in place on the morning of the interview, he got a call from his beloved Judith.
The Heartbreak
It must be a great luck for his interview, hearing from his wife-to-be. Judith however announced to him right there on the phone that she’s no longer in love with him.
She suggests that they should give their relationship a permanent break because she has moved on.
It was a rude shock for Jude but he has to put himself together for his interview. He promised to deal with the issue later. It wasn’t easy for him to wave the heartbreak away. His heart was divided, interview on his mind, heartbreak ripping him apart on the other hand.
It was his turn to be interviewed; he sat in front of the panelists and was asked to do one thing.
”You are the radio host for a popular relationship program on air, can you please give a brief introduction to today’s episode of the program”….. That was the task.
And here’s Jude response to his test.
“Earlier this morning, my lover broke our relationship of two beautiful years at a crucial time in my life. I am here with a heavy heart yet I have you my audience waiting for me. So I have to brace up because life continues.
Now, I wonder how I can balance life with this heartbreak and other goals I need to accomplish. Today, I want to hear your views about how you handled previous heartbreaks in your relationship, let’s learn from you. We also have a Relationship Coach in the house….I, your host Judah Best will be right back after the commercials…”
The panelists were ‘wowed’….he got the job on the spot with lot of mouth watering benefits. His life changed on the day he was jilted.
The reaction of his ex
Within six months, he was in high demand as MC and live show host for social corporate organizations. It was one of those days that he received a call from Judith; she wants to come back to him…..
Jude really loved Judith and he still has feelings for her but she actually left him for someone else. She left when he needed her most and now she wants to come back. She is probably making a comeback because of his current rich status.
Things you need to know about your ex
Your ex could be your past. It could be a dirty habit you left, a pitfall you survived from or weakness you overcame.
Are you are married now but had an ex who used to know the password to set your body ablaze?
Just a call from her and you are already undressing her in your mind. To make the matter worse, she is ready to go on a date with you. You’ve got to take control of the ‘lust’ least it lead you to an early grave.
Some married folks made a mess of their beautiful future because they gave entrance to an Ex into their lives.
Some attractions are for your destruction; so beware!
Stop having a hangover over an Ex who has nothing to offer than heartaches. He/she walked out because he/she believes you are not good enough.
Don’t stay around someone who only tolerate you but never celebrates you.
Jonah had to do away with his ‘over-sleeping’ habit before he could fulfill God’s purpose for his life. Disengage from anything that will weigh you down from advancing into the future.
You may need to stop picking that call or probably delete that contact from your phonebook. Do not hesitate to block that follower on social media that keeps sending you nude pictures. You have the power to prevent yourself from sleeping on the laps of Delilah least you end up like Samson.
Meet my Ex
I once dated a guy who would walk in any time of the day to declare our relationship was over.
Each time this happened, I would cry and become very devastated only for him to come back few weeks or days later begging on his knees that his life would be meaningless without me. Going by my love for him, I accept him back easily only for him to repeat it few weeks later.
This went on and on, the more it repeats itself, the more I became an emotional wreck.
In our one year courtship, the relationship got ‘broken’ and ‘repaired’ like seven times until I said it was enough. I told him that although I have forgiven him, I have however discovered that he is not emotionally matured to handle relationships for now least he makes a mess of my life. I could no longer trust him with my heart because he has no good track records with it.
Any man/woman that takes pleasure in making you cry is not worthy to have you. Let me put it this way, if your partner toys with your emotions, then s/he may not be a good spouse to you.
Should you marry your Ex?
You alone can best answer that question. If the challenges that made you and your ex part initially get resolved, why not? However, be sure of your decision and let God be a part of it.
You know why? God sees the end from the beginning and knows what tomorrow holds for you both. So, let him guide you.
This brings to mind the story of Michal and King David. They both were initially married but were separated when David became a fugitive.
Many years later, King David was enthroned and then sent that Michal be brought back to him. This is because her late father had given her in marriage to another man. So in this light, we can tag her David’s ex who came back.
Things however didn’t remain same between them. David has grown to love God more and she has grown in the opposite direction. David got fed up with her when she insulted him for dancing wild before God. That was what made King David ban her from coming to his presence ever again.
So, if you decide to end up with your ex, make sure you both are on same page and have agreed to walk together. Amos 3:3
Seriously, if the ‘bad’ that your Ex has to offer outweighs the ‘good’….don’t open the door of your heart to him or her again.
