To what extent should a third party get involved in your romantic relationship? Who exactly is a third party where your relationship is concerned? Could there be someone whose involvement or presence around your life and relationship is sabotaging your peace and that of your spouse?
Who is a Third Party?
This relates to a person or group besides the two primarily involved in a situation. Going by this definition, anyone apart from you and your spouse is a third party to your marriage. Those that fall into this category are your parents, friends, siblings and any other person apart from your spouse. The question however is should you stay away from all of these people? Are there not positive roles that they can play in your life?
The role of your Parents
You need your parental blessings for your union with your spouse and as such you need their consent for your union. Often times, I come across believers who claim their parents are not in support of their marriage to a particular person. In this situation what can the person do?
The most important thing is God’s consent about that relationship. If God is in support of it, then it is a matter of time for your parents to agree with you.
There is nothing prayer and patience cannot solve. It is just that humans always want answers in a hurry. I have seen couples who had to wait for years for the bride’s parents to support their union before walking down the aisle.
What happens after marriage to your relationship with your parents? You need to always remember you are to leave them and cleave to your spouse. Genesis 2:24
This does not mean you should not keep in touch with them nor stop your responsibility to them. You should however know your topmost priority is with your spouse.
What about your friends?
You need friends in your life but they should not take the place of your spouse. Your spouse should be your best friend.
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On no account should your friends get your attention more than your spouse. You should also build your relationship with your spouse to the extent there is nothing you can hide from him or her. The man and his wife should be naked with one another and not be ashamed. Genesis 2:25
To what extent should third party be allowed?
Let me share with you the kind of third party that you can allow in your life. They are those who have positive influence on you and your relationship with your spouse. It could be people in your inner circle, marriage mentors or spiritual parents. It is possible for your biological parents to have great positive influence on you.
Above all, the Holy Spirit is a third party that you and your spouse must cherish and hold dear. This is because following his leading will help you build a supernatural marriage that will never disintegrate.