How to cope when your Spouse do not support your Vision

Your vision is very important. It is the future you are working towards. It is what guarantees how long you will live. For where there is no vision, the people perish. Proverbs 29:18

Let’s go back to the Foundation

Your spouse is supposed to be aware of your vision, purpose and what your heart beats for before wedding. In fact, this is what should form part of your discussions during courtship.

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Elder Amos emphasized that two people cannot walk together or even go on a long journey together except they agree. Amos 3:3

The agreement must have been made long before the wedding. I understand that you may not have the full picture of where God is taking you to. God however must have given you hints or words about what he is preparing you for.

The vision is for an appointed time, wait for it, it may be years into your marriage before it manifest. This is why it is crucial that you marry someone who agrees, believes and supports your vision from the word ‘go’.

Let’s look at Joseph and Mary

Mary was someone whom God trusted with the vision of conceiving Jesus Christ. Accepting this vision means she has to risk being pregnant by the Holy Ghost. Her fiancé, Joseph wasn’t part of this arrangement and thought it wise to disengage from her privately without putting her to shame.

I am so very sure Mary went to talk to God about the issue. She decided to have a conversation with God on the matter. Trust God, he had to send his Angel to go explain the truth of the matter to Joseph and the reason he needs to support Mary’s vision. Read about it in Matthew 1:18-21.

Read this; the heart of a King is in the hands of the Lord. Proverbs 21:1

Learn from Mary

So what must you do when your spouse-to-be does not support or believe your vision? Talk to God who gave you the vision and inspiration. God will touch his or her heart to comply and even show your partner the part he or she will play in the vision.

Now what if your partner still refuses to be a part of it despite receiving messages from God? It definitely means, God will either ask you to wait while he works on your partner before your wedding or you will see that both of you may drift apart naturally as long as you hold on to your vision.

One thing you need to know is that, God’s work cannot be stopped. It’s either you take up the challenge of the vision God has given you or risk losing the vision. Human beings can be replaced, only God cannot be replaced.

I recommend you watch the movie GBEMI by Damilola Mike- Bamiloye, an adaptation of the novel written by his wife Ella Mike-Bamiloye.

What if the Vision is received after being married?

God is one who sees the end from the beginning. Isaiah 46:10. This is why it is important that you allow God to lead you in your choice of marriage partner. God will only give you what you need not what you want when it comes to marriage partner. This is because he sees the future and he knows who will partner with you well to fulfill purpose.

If God decides to give you a vision after you are married, he may decide to confirm the vision to your spouse through any means. That however is based on if your spouse is receptive to God. Now what if you have married outside of God’s plan? You are on your own (SMH).

It is like saying the foundation is faulty; and when the foundation is faulty, what can the righteous do? The righteous have to pray and keep praying until he hears from God on the matter. He needs to pray for mercy because the way forward may be a very hard way.

The way forward may include embarking on a mission without your spouse’s support. That of course is a dangerous mission.

Going on that mission may mean you may have to create a support system for that assignment which may not include your spouse.

However it is, never stop praying for God’s mercy and help. It is better to do ministry in God’s rest than in stress.