Tyler Perry wrote, directed and produced a blockbuster with numerous relationship lessons that we must pay attention to. The movie Acrimony which was released in 2018 grossed about $46 million worldwide.
The movie is about the loyal wife, Melinda (Mel) and her quest for revenge against her ex husband.
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Here are ten powerful lessons you must not joke with:
It is important that you disclose important details of your past to your spouse.
These are information that is material to the success of your relationship to your Partner.
Robert (the husband) once robbed at a grocery store and spent two years in jail for his crime. His crime record disqualified him to be employed in any reputable company in the US leaving him with the option of menial jobs.
That is a major disclosure.
Your own disclosure may be divorce, a love child, abortion or complications in the womb. The person you are going to marry or married to need to know.
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP WHEN NECESSARY
The start of the Movie shows the Judge advising Melinda to seek professional help as it looks like she needs one.
Depression and suicide are on the increase. It is important to seek help when you get stressed emotionally or mentally.
When you see that you are losing it, don’t keep silent and don’t wait till you lose your mind. Speak up. Don’t allow yourself to be swallowed up in turmoil.
It is not just about seeking professional help; be humble and patient enough to go through sessions and interventions from your counselor.
Don’t do it halfway like a patient who went for consultation but refuse to get full treatment.
NEVER IGNORE RED FLAGS DURING COURTSHIP
Robert cheated on Melinda while dating and still depended on her for his survival. She caught him red handed.
That was a signal he may still cheat on her and may have to keep depending on her financially. She was supposed to take it slow and watch if he will change.
She accepted his apology and rushed to accept him back. There are some relationships that wouldn’t have ended up in marriage if the parties involved paid attention to the red flags during courtship.
Fall in love with your heart but don’t let your brain go to sleep when you do.
SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX
In the movie, Mel, a teenager allowed Robert break her virginity on her mum’s funeral day.
I am a strong advocate of abstinence before marriage because it’s the Lord’s command. Hebrews 13:4
Many ladies found it difficult to let go of a bad relationship because sex has transpired in it.
A woman is emotional in nature and can easily be ‘tied down’ emotionally to the man she sleeps with.
If Melinda had not been sleeping with Robert, she would have been able to think straight. This would have helped her walk away when she discovers he is sleeping with someone else.
Please stay away from premarital sex. Take time to know your partner better before concluding if he/she can be your spouse.
This will open your eyes if you are observant enough to see things that will help you make the right decision.
When a man cheats and says it is just sex…. please run from such person and don’t look back.
Sex is not ‘just‘. Sex is spiritual and sacred; it is an exchange. Having it with someone means you are exchanging a whole lot with that person both physical and spiritual.
PAY ATTENTION TO THE COMMUNICATION FREQUENCY
A relationship in which only one individual does the communication by reaching out is a one way relationship.
There is no way you will not want to reach out to the one you are seriously into. Not having enough funds will not stop you from reaching out to your beloved.
After Mel got Robert a car he stopped reaching out to her. She was the one doing the calls and reaching out. Even when she reaches out he sounds like a stranger on the phone.
Communication is the livewire of any relationship…the tone of it will show you the state or healthiness of the relationship.
FINANCE AND ROMANCE
Finance has a way of influencing the romance in the home.
It is important that you discuss about finance before you marry. It goes a long way if both of you have a source of income. This will help reduce the tension and friction associated with home expenses.
This way too much financial burden will not be on the shoulder of the working spouse. See, it is hard to keep a happy face when there is no money to purchase the next meal.
THE PLACE OF TRUST
Trust can never be over rated in marriage.
It is very important that you talk with your spouse/partner when you are suspicious of anything. This is better than keeping silence with your doubts.
A sexless marriage is not a healthy marriage. It fosters hostility, misunderstanding and makes married couples drift apart.
It can lead to secrecy which can cause a great damage to the marriage.
INVEST IN YOUR SELF DEVELOPMENT
It was obvious that Melinda didn’t upgrade herself. She remained on same job/ level for years. On the other hand, Diana (Robert’s side chick) found a way to keep brushing herself up until she got to the top of her career.
This placed her in a position to make a push for Robert’s battery idea into the hands of the company policy makers.
Dear friend, make constant self appraisal to ascertain if you’re improving or at same in all important aspect of your life.
There is nothing as beautiful and peaceful as forgiveness. It gives mental and emotional freedom rest.
Forgive your ex no matter what he/she has done to you. You need this for your sanity.
When you are married, learn to forgive your spouse in advance. Many have gone ahead to revenge evil done to them only to die in the process or cause irreparable damage.
If need be, get the help of a trusted counselor to help you through the forgiveness process. It is until you forgive that you are qualified to receive God’s forgiveness.
Know when moving on is the best step to take in your relationship.
And when you move on don’t form the habit of looking back with regrets on a daily basis.
It is an unhealthy habit to keep checking how well your ex has turned out. You can’t move the vehicle of your life forward when you keep your eyes stuck on the rear mirror.